Dealing with Delays

I don’t know about you, but I want what I want, when I want it.

Sometimes, I struggle with taking my foot off the gas pedal when I’m excited about making progress. Over the years, I’ve gotten much better at understanding the importance of timing. Not everything is meant to happen this red-hot minute.

Often, a delay is a wonderful set up for a better outcome.

During the pre-production phase of my short film “Sell,” we experienced a number of delays which inched the production date further and further away from the targeted start date.

I’ve trained myself to not display outward frustration when these things happen but am definitely a work in progress when it comes to keeping the inner rage monster at bay.

To my delight, a magical thing happened during the delay. Chase Young, an amazing actor and new friend joined the cast. I was able to spend more time with the cast members rehearsing and ultimately that led to some script revisions that really enhanced the existing story.

We expanded our production capacity, locked in new locations and increased marketing for the project. The additional time was unexpected, but incredibly valuable.

When I reflect back on some of the most amazing moments in my personal and professional life, many have come as a result of a delay or disappointment. It really lends credence to the phrase “a setback is really a set up.”

We have to be aware when the setback is happening that the next moments of our journey could be so much richer if we allow everything to flow in its natural timeframe.

How do you let go when a delay happens? Well, that’s the secret to it all. When you realize you don’t have a choice in the matter, it’s a lot easier to release your hard and fast timeframes. If you are in the middle lane of gridlocked traffic with no movement for miles, the best you can do is sing loudly to some awesome music. You certainly can’t make the cars around you move. Then when you finally are able to inch closer to your destination and see that the cause of the delay is an accident, which you were able to avoid – the delay suddenly turns into a blessing.

Take a moment to consider times when you rushed into a project or process that was not ready to move forward and the awesome outcome that was produced during the downtime.

I know you have some if you are able to really release the frustration the soft pause caused. Bookmark that example in your mind, so that next time you face a delay, you can do so with a smile and the knowledge that whatever you’re up to will benefit from the extra time.

Keep living “but” free and sharing positive insights with the world around you. Peace and love!